The 7 Secrets Of Resilient People
Stress at work can have a detrimental affect, not only on your performance and happiness in the work place, it can also negatively impact the rest of your life. Some people are naturally more resilient to stressful situations, problems and conflict, whilst others struggle. Resilience isn’t a personality trait though, it’s something that everyone can learn and improve.
Having more resilience at work not only means that you are able to adapt to challenging circumstances better, it means that problems and negative situations have less impact on your emotional and mental well-being.
We all know people who adapt easily and deal with negativity directed towards them as though it’s ‘water off a duck’s back’. They don’t get over-stressed when things don’t work out as planned, when targets aren’t met and deadlines are looming. On the other hand, some less resilient people really suffer when work gets tough, they become anxious, self-critical and look to lay blame – either on themselves or others.
If you feel that stressful or unpleasant situations at work are affecting you more than they should, take a look at how people who seem more resilient deal with similar challenges. Read through the list below of common traits of people with high resilience at work – which of these habits could you take on-board?
7 Common Traits of People with High Resilience at Work
1. They Know Their Boundaries
People with a high level of resilience at work are often those who set their boundaries. They aren’t afraid to say no when they can’t do something and don’t take on more work than they can comfortably deal with. They are forthright about boundaries and will explain exactly what they are willing to do and what they are not willing to do.
2. They Accept That Circumstances Always Change
One of the only constants in life in general is that circumstances always change. Just because work isn’t going well right now, doesn’t mean it won’t in the future. People with good resilience at work accept that there will be times that are stressful or frustrating. There may be people who are causing them problems, but these situations are only temporary. They don’t see problems as long-term, they accept times that are stressful whilst looking forward to more productive and happier periods.
3. They Surround Themselves With a Team
Resilient people deliberately surround themselves with other resilient people who are positive to be around and encouraging during stressful times. A good team around you will not only help you to deal with problems. They are people who can listen to you when you reach out for support and provide alternative viewpoints to difficult issues. People who are resilient are often seen as strong but this doesn’t mean they think they have all the answers.They are frequently the people who most often ask for advice from trusted members of their team.
4. They Consider Alternatives
People with high resilience are often people who ‘think out of the box‘ when faced with challenges. When their first method of doing something doesn’t work out, they are ready to try alternatives until they find the right solution. They don’t take failures personally, they see them as challenges to be solved. They are also often willing to take advice from those around them and share the burden of decision-making.
5. They Work on Distractions
When faced with a problem, you may find a person with high resilience at work doing anything but working directly on that problem. Sometimes, it’s possible to be too close to a situation to see the right solution. Relaxation through distraction is a great way to get your subconscious mind working creatively. Resilient people often know when to simply walk away from a situation and do something entirely different. They may go for a walk, read a book, go for a swim or meditate. It’s often easy to over-think a problem to the point where it feels insurmountable. Remember, your mind is a powerful creative tool and your subconscious is always looking for answers. Distract your conscious mind and allow yourself to ‘switch off’ a little. Then you may find problems seem easier to solve and their impact on you personally diminishes.
6. They Know Their Strengths and Weaknesses
People with good resilience are often seen as very self-aware. Not only are they able to identify what they are good at, they also know their weaknesses. Rather than dwelling on their weaknesses, they simply acknowledge and accept them. We can’t all be good at everything. As unique beings, we all have a broad spectrum of skills. Accepting weaknesses, whilst maximising on strengths, allows resilient people to channel their energy into greater productivity.
7. They Look at the Bigger Picture
Highly resilient people tend to see the bigger picture rather than focussing on details that are negative. They understand that they are not responsible, in whole, for an entire situation and are able to distance themselves from problems. They don’t see negative circumstances as all-encompassing, they see them as an inconvenience that can be overcome in time.
Remember, although work is important, it shouldn’t make the rest of your life unhappy. Going home stressed and worrying about work situations isn’t good for you, or for the people you share your life with. Working on your work resilience will help you protect your emotional well-being and improve the quality of your time at home.
Have you suffered from low resilience to workplace stress? How have you dealt with it? We’d love to hear what worked for you.
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